Mothers wish their daughters a happy life when they get married. They can do this by training them to be good wives while at home through setting a good example and though training and educating them about their responsibilities. Here is an advise that is usually cited in Arabic books about women and marriage.
The mother said to her daughter on the night of her wedding: “you are about to depart the nest you have grown up in to a nest that is not familiar to you. You will have a companion you are well not acquainted with. He is going to be your spouse, therefore be his concubine; he shall immediately be your slave. I am giving you an advice of ten points:
1- Leave out greed in your companionship.
2- Live with him on the basis of obedience.
3- Pay attention to what his eyes might fall onto in the house.
4- Avoid showing him any ugliness, and he should find the best smell.
5- Watch and respect the times of his meals.
6- Keep calm when he sleeps: the bite of hunger makes him angry, and disturbing his sleep brings about hate.
7- Take good care of the house and be honest with his wealth.
8- Take good care of him and his children.
9- Keep his secrets or don’t spread his secrets.
10- Do not disobey any of his orders. Spreading his secrets will be unsafe as he may take revenge, and disobeying him brings about his rage.
Moreover, avoid showing joy when he is sad or sadness when he is gay since the first indicates irresponsibility and the second brings disturbance. You shall not attain what you want unless you give priority to his satisfaction.
This is a translation of the Arab woman Asmaa bint kharijah by Mazin Motabagani. I did not feel this valuable advice needs much analysis. But I must say that it shows the important role of the woman in the house; she is the real source of happiness or misery. This shows also the positive role the woman plays.